I have recently
been giving a lot of thought to what it means to be “addicted” to something.
The idea of being an “addict” might draw to mind some pretty frightening
graphic images. On the other hand, its commonplace to talk about one’s vices,
cravings, those “can’t live withouts” that help us cope with daily life
stressors. When does an innocuous vice
become something seriously concerning to your overall health and wellbeing? We
all have coping strategies, but when does coping with a problem become its own
problem?
Wouldn’t it be
nice if I offered you a black and white answer about the when, where, and how
we can tell whether we are headed down a dangerous road of addiction, in order
to take the next exit before crashing. In reality, however, the road signs that
mark danger are extremely subjective, personal and often just out of sight.
Take this
example: Work is stressful, and you develop a routine of enjoying a drink at
the end of a hard day at work. After a couple of months, one drink doesn’t
quite do it anymore- you start having 2, then 3, then 6. Then work becomes a
little more stressful, and you decide to start your day with a little booze to
take the edge off the morning. It starts to wear off by midday, and you start
going to a bar on your lunch break. Before long, you are stashing mickeys in
your desk at work. Next your coworker notices and tells your boss. You lose
your job, and so you turn to the bottle to help you cope with that- you begin
drinking all day at home. Your partner feels neglected and helpless and decides
to leave. You want to stop, you see your life crumbling, but you simply cannot
live without the alcohol to cope.
This story might
sound extreme (“that would never
happen to me”), but what the story is trying to emphasize is that substance use
can transform gradually and slyly to substance abuse and substance dependence.
When was the turning point from manageable to perilous? I want to share with
you a tool that helped me understand the grey zones of substance use: a
spectrum of substance use. This tool can help you self-assess where you are at
with your vice or vices of choice, in order to empower you to acknowledge what
might be one of those obstructed road signs, and/or to seek the appropriate
help.
Beneficial:
- Use has positive
effect on health, spirituality, or social life (e.g. coffee to increase alertness, traditional herbs
for cultural purposes)
Non-Problematic:
- Recreational, casual, or other use that has
insignificant health or social impact (e.g. drinking socially or on special occasions)
Problematic:
- Use that starts
having negative health consequences for self, family/friends, or society at
large (e.g. getting sick,
missing work or school, missing social events, getting in trouble with the
law…)
Dependent:
- Use that has
become habitual despite the negative health and social impacts (e.g. getting in a car accident under the
influence, friends and family cannot stand to be with you…)
The purpose of
giving you this tool is as much about helping you to understand and identify
the different categories of use and the associated risks and symptoms, as it is
about recognizing the grey zone between each category. The grey zone is where
it is exceedingly important to ask yourself how you are doing, and to have
conversations with those around you. Recognizing and naming where you are along
this spectrum is nothing to be ashamed of. Life is far from easy and we all
need coping strategies to help us through. The key is to find adaptive healthy
coping strategies that help you to soothe yourself in the short term in a way
that does not undermine your well being in the long term (e.g. talking to loved
ones, exercise, massage, artistic expression…). What are some of your healthy
coping strategies? What could they be? Have these conversations with supportive
loved ones, experiment with your coping strategies, and learn what you are
capable of.
by Naomi Adams, Graduate Intern